With so many one-parent
households today, some fathers are missing from their
kids’ lives. Others are filling the role of father to
kids who have lost theirs for whatever reason. A
missing father leaves a gaping hole in kids’ development
and character. There are other fathers who are filling
the role of a missing mother. The roles that dads are
playing in their families’ lives are important ones, and
they need divine guidance.
The Bible gives many
instructions to fathers and their responsibilities. In
Israel, they were to talk about how God had delivered
His people from bondage and brought them to the Promise
Land. They woke their children up in the morning with
the stories, told them again at the noon meal and at the
evening meal to reinforce the memory. Before they put
the little ones to bed at night, they told them again.
When they were walking down the road, it was discussed,
probably filled conversation when they were on
vacation. It was the number-one topic of discussion in
the family. God would be pleased to have that kind of
“publicity” in the family today. He is still bringing
deliverance to those captive to sin and brings them out
of the wilderness of Satan’s snares, and He would like
for fathers to remind their children of His love and
concern for them so they can tell their children when
they grow up and have families.
God would be pleased to have
every dad as a “PR” (public relations) person on His
Whether a man is a biological
father, step-father or just filling in as a surrogate
parent, he has a responsibility and a great opportunity
to help mold the lives of the kids in his charge. He
will also be accountable to God for his input into their
lives. Children are commanded to obey their parents,
and they should; but fathers are to bring them up in the
nurture and admonition of the Lord which will foster
obedience. Just as God doesn’t discard us when we fail,
He wants fathers to never abandon their ties and
obligations to their children.
THE STRONGEST CORD IN THE
WORLD IS LOVE! It acts like a bungee cord; it always
brings the erring child back to its loving parent. The
parent refuses to turn the cord loose; so every time the
child strays, it is still connected to the caring parent
like an umbilical cord which brings life to the unborn
baby. With the slightest loosening grip of the child to
his destructive behavior, it is meant to bring him back
to the love of his father.
That’s the kind of love God
has for each of us, and it is best demonstrated when
displayed in the lives of fathers who allow God to love
their children through him.
I have a word picture
below of an ideal father. Yes, I know I am not a
father, but I can see the portrait God painted in His
Word for fathers. And I also had a father who was not
perfect, but who loved his children and was very proud
of their accomplishments as they grew up. I still
remember the basketball games he took me and some of my
friends to when we played our band instruments to boost
our home team. My father was my strongest supporter to
things I wrote and always encouraged me. Memories flood
upon memories, and they are special.
F A T H E R
F – Forgiving, as God
A – Available, at the
“drop of a hat” (even dropping his pet projects)
T – Trustworthy, has his
H – Hears the heartbeat
of his kids, is a listener, considers their ideas
E – Ethical,
R – Reciprocal receiver.
Accepts love, loves unconditionally and lets them know.
“Beware lest your footprints
on the sands of time leave only the marks of a heel”
(from “God’s Little Instruction Book II”). Unlike
footprints in the sand that will be washed away with the
evening tide, the prints dad is making now will be
stamped on his children, and the “mark” will remain with
them all of their lives, even into another generation.
In his book “Grace for the
Moment,” Max Lucado mentions how little legs stretch to
try to walk in the same footprints left by his father in
the snow. It’s not an easy task, so fathers need to
make it worthwhile for the little guy’s effort. Max
notices that when the father is aware of his son’s
effort, he slows and shortens his stride. There’s a
world of meaning in that! It shows compassion and makes
the job of keeping up a little easier for his
followers. The key here is that the father is aware
that someone is stepping in his footprints. With that
awareness, he will be careful of his own steps. My
dad's "footprints" were a great influence in my life, as
I chronicled in a web page:
The Shoe Cobbler's Daughter
“Wherefore lift up the hands
which hang down, and the feeble knees; And make straight
paths for your feet, lest that which is lame (weak,
inexperienced) be turned out of the way; but let it
rather be healed (strengthened, matured)” (Hebrews
My sister, Lorinda Lee Grubbs
"The Shoe Cobbler's Hands"
(at the family website. Click on the link to view) in honor and remembrance of our
dad. Those hands fixed many "soles on shoes" and
attended to even more "souls" while applying the glue
and attaching the nails to their shoes.
“The steps of a good man are
ordered by the Lord; and he delighteth in his way”
(Psalm 37:23). Just as God delights in men walking in
the steps He has ordered, fathers can rejoice that they
are walking in a “Delightful Way” so that their children
can walk in their steps and please the Lord too. An
awesome job, but filled with “delight.”
Dads, be “there” for your
kids. They will never forget you, and it is up to you
to create memories that will bring a smile many years
down the road, long after you have left this world. You
will also see yourself duplicated as your character is
acted out in your offspring toward their own children.
Furthermore, you will be
rewarded by your Heavenly Father for your faithfulness.
Being a “Father” according to God’s standards has great
rewards, some now and some throughout eternity. What
God wants is for dads to be the kind of father that He,
our Heavenly Father, is so that the world will come to
know Him, trust and obey Him. You can do it, Dads, if
you will come to know Him, trust Him and obey Him.
“And, ye fathers, provoke not
your children to wrath; but bring them up in the nurture
and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4).
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!
Don’t forget to honor your own
father on this special day. Though they don’t always
show it, dads (and even dads-in-law) would appreciate
knowing you care enough to say “I love you, Dad!” If
your dad is no longer living, you can still honor him by
having happy thoughts of him and being thankful for him.
The commandment to “Honor your
father and your mother” is not nullified by their
deaths. It’s just plain spiritually and emotionally
healthy to “Honor your father and your mother” (alive or
deceased) even if you feel they don’t deserve it. It
doesn’t appear that the commandment was conditional.
Just do it because God said to and leave the rest to
It’s not hard at all for me,
because I had a great dad! I have paid him honor on our
family website and my other websites. You can see the Father's Day
web pages I have done by going to the links
This link is to Daddy's "short
biography" that I discovered in his journal.
Other Father's Day Pages
A Father After God's Own
Leave Your Mark
Honor Thy Father
Who is Your Father
All of our pages in
Picture: Bonvin Francois
the Blacksmiths Shop 188
There's Good News June 2014
My other Inspirational Website